We’re the Reason

*Warning: Mentions of suicide, depression, self-harm, and bullying are made in this blog post. If you are sensitive to these subject-please-for your own safety, do not read or proceed with great caution.

*If you feel the urge to take your own life, please, I’m begging you to contact the suicide hotline @ 1-800-273-8255

If you live in America, or if you own a Netflix account, you’ve probably either heard or watched 13 Reasons Why. If you haven’t, here’s the run down: A high school teenager commits suicide but instead of writing a note, she leaves 13 tapes. These tapes are the main 13 reasons why she decides to take her own life, and one of them happens to be Clay Jenson who is the second to last top listen to the tapes and who starts to find the justice she deserved. Her name was Hannah Baker, and she is just an example of what happens, not only to teenager girls but also teenage boys, everyday.

High school is a scary place. It’s a place where you lose yourself, find yourself, and learn for yourself truly how cruel and ignorant teenagers and even teachers can be. During my high school experience, I’ve witnessed and heard of all of these things…I’ve heard the comments that the boys make about the girls, even what some teachers say, I’ve seen students crying on their way to class because their grades aren’t where they want them to me, I’ve witnessed friend groups split because suddenly one of the members didn’t seem to fit the criteria anymore…I’ve seen/heard/witnessed the cruel reality that our society is.

A society that romanticizes the problems of mental disorders, so much so, that we self-diagnose ourselves. We live in a society where parents don’t know if their child is joking or not when they say “I want to die right now”. We live in a society that has become numb to the signs of true, real pain from students that are crying out behind the students that are jokingly whispering these words before a history test. I will admit, I say the same phrase numerous times in one week.

What a messed up society we live in, where students take real life problems that aren’t things to joke about and they make themselves up into a problematic, angst teenager. I understand, there are students that are truly in need of help, but a majority are being cast down because of adults who have heard these “guilt stories” so much that when another student actually does need help, they won’t get it because the adults don’t believe it.

We live in a society that makes it okay to bully people, to be “savage”, to “burn” people, to make them feel like they are nothing. We subtweet, we break couples up, we start rumors, we spread pictures.

WE CAUSED THIS. US, MILLENNIAL’S, WE MADE THIS. WE TURNED OUR SOCIETY INTO THIS CHAOTIC WORLD WE LIVE IN TODAY. We made the media, but in turn the media made us into an era of attention seeking, arrogant souls.

So…Why don’t we stop?

Why don’t we change this idea that we can hurt people and get away with it? People don’t have to go through life feeling nothing, dealing with themselves and their thoughts alone, no one should. No one should feel like they are a nothing, no one should feel like their only way out is to take their own life, no one deserves that. No one deserves to feel like they can’t feel anything.

If you need help, get help. Find you a person, someone you can call and that will help you through the troubles of life. Find yourself something that will help you strive towards a purpose. Someone out there loves you, so go and find them.

No one should feel like nothing, no one should feel empty.

With Love,